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Filling Your Needs Of All Kinds…..With Chocolate Cake?

Posted on 03. Jul, 2010 by kris in Desserts, Emotional Awareness, Relationships

Happy Friday Everyone!

WOO HOOO!  Fridays are the best day of the week I think.  Especially sunny Fridays where you get to spend your day sitting in Yaletown with your sister  We are scheming, always scheming…..

How is your day going??  Is it sunny where you are??

Filling your need tank!

Do you even know what your needs are?  Do you ever listen to them?

I know for myself I have many needs and sometimes I fulfil them, other times other people have to fulfil them, or sometimes I push them aside.  I realized today that I am tired of pushing my needs aside and really will start taking massive control and hold my needs tightly to me.

Of course, I hear them come up, but I might be too busy, or too confused to know what they are really telling me.  I may even feel Selfish for having some needs.

There are needs that I need from Ryan and from loved  ones that I am going to be more open with so I can make sure my needs get met as best as they can from them as well.  Now, I am not saying that I NEED a new LV bag and everyone must get me one so I feel whole (even though that would be perfecto!) but what I am referring to mostly is if I don’t really want to do something they might be asking of me, I don’t NEED to say “Yes”.  I am allowed to say No.

If I feel I need my space from someone close to me for a few minutes or a day, I can do this because it is my need.

Up until recently I have been always pushing my needs a side for others. Since learning that my needs have a voice and a place in this word I am shouting them out all over the place!

Ryan is really excited about this, I am sure of it  All joking aside it is super important to tell your partner your needs so  you don’t pull the “freak out” on them when they aren’t fulfilling them.  Come on……we have all been there, haven’t we?

“Why is  he taking me to this Starbucks, I hate this one, I want to go to the other one” rolling furiously through my head.

We pull up – I snap!  “Why did you take me to this one?”

But how we forget that people CAN NOT read our minds and our “inside” voice stays inside.  Yes, we tell ourselves that we really like the other starbucks better…..but no one but us can hear it

So mission possible today ladies is to SPEAK UP! Fill the air with your needs because they are yours and you are entitled to them.  Also, please remember to find out others needs as well.  We can’t be selfish, now can we?

To be a good communicator, partner and friend, it is important to share your needs with others and really listen and fulfil their needs when you can.

If you both want a LV, well then – your laughing.

How do you find what your needs are?

Ask yourself.  Sit quietly and ask yourself “what are my needs?  Are they being fulfilled?”

You will also want to do this on a daily basis as your day goes on.  You will get a twinge inside that will tell you that you need alone time.  Question it, and decide what it is you need to do with it.  Can you make alone time right now?  If so, great!  Get on that Need Train!

When it comes to needs that only YOU can fill, listen to them.  If it is a simple need as going to your favourite books store alone with a tea and reading different books till the cows come home, do it.  Be alone and don’t feel bad if you think you “should” be spending time with someone else because that guilt is creeping in.

If your need is to go to the gym 5 times a week, but you feel bad leaving the kids, think about fulfilling it.  You mama, have some strong needs that your gut is telling you.

Some people might just need more hugs!  Tell people that hugs make you feel loved and warm and you will get them!  12 hugs a day is the minimum

Yesterday, my need was not as mental as it was a simple craving.  Flat out, I NEEDED

Chocolate Cake.

Oh lordy, I was craving chocolate cake….

I caved and made a decent chocolate cake from scratch with healthy chocolate icing.

This picture doesn’t even do it justice, I swear!

Simple, Yet Satisfying Chocolate Cake:

1 cup buckwheat flour (or flour of choice)
1 cup oat flour (or you can use the same flour for each cup)
1/4 cup coconut oil (melted)
1 cup maple syrup
2 tsp vanilla extract
1 mashed banana
2/3 cup cocoa powder
1 cup chocolate chips
3/4 tsp baking soda
1/4 tsp sea salt
1 cup milk (I used rice)

Directions:

Preheat oven to 350

Mash the banana and mix well with oil, vanilla, milk and maple syrup.

In a separate bowl mix the dry ingredients together.

Mix both wet and dry together.  Don’t over mix.

Grease a 9″ round cake pan with some coconut oil.

Bake for 20 – 25 minutes depending on oven.

Icing:

I ice a piece of cake as I eat it, so this icing is for 2 pieces.

2 tbsp cocoa powder
1 tbsp coconut oil
1 tsp maple syrup (or agave)

Mix by hand or with a hand blender to get it fluffier!

YUM!

Do you listen and voice your needs?  Do you embrace them and stay true to them?  Do you fall into cravings often?  Is chocolate cake a favourite of yours??

To Your Glam Life,

xxoo

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