Happy Tuesday, Doll!
How are ya?
POWER. This is an interesting word.
I thought today I’d share a bit about how you can step into your power and share with you a bit of my power stepping journey….
Yesterday I mentioned I was going to do this on Facebook and I got a couple emails with gals telling me that they need to know how to live in their own power.
Power used to scare me. Why? Because I thought it was a negative word. I would hear power and I would think that means someone is in control of me. Over the years until I took a dip in my personal pool of amazingness I had no idea how to “Own My Power” and how to LIVE IN MY POWER! This is the key, being in your power is what is going to allow you to be the best you in life.
What I was doing for most of the time was giving my power away.
I recently read this piece online that came out of Marianne Williamson’s book “A Woman’s Worth”:
“A queen is wise. She has earned her serenity, not having had it bestowed on her but having passed her tests. She has suffered and grown more beautiful because of it. She has proved she can hold her kingdom together. She has become its vision. She cares deeply about something bigger than herself. She rules with authentic power.“
I really started to want to understand what “rules with authentic power.” meant! WOW, I COULD rule my life with power that was authentic, that was real that was ME! How flippin cool! I missed this in my life and I thrived for it.
When I first went on my spiritual journey a few years back I sat and looked at my coach and said “I don’t know whats wrong with me, but I feel like a prisoner in my own body”. That was the best way for me to describe the disconnect I had within.
I knew in my heart I wanted to be seen, to be powerful and to lead. I just never believed I could.
I started to see that anyone that said “No” to me, or disagreed with me, cut me down or even gave me advice, I’d give my power to them like they’d stick a vacuum to my face and just suck it all out of me. Forever, daily, I was drained and tired all the time. Sad and lonely in life.
This needed to change and it needed to morph fast if I wanted that life I never knew I had, but wanted so badly.
I started my personal development journey reprogramming my brain with all the passions I had and I started loving myself more and more each day. “Me” time was added to my day and I was treating the universe like my Homeboy and really connecting to myself at a deeper level. I wrote a post on WHAT to do to change your life around here {the universe is my homeboy….or girl} I started to develop my 5 Fab Tips for Living a Life of Happiness and just embraced the change that was happening in my life.
Quick Tip: Start doing this exercise daily – “I Love Myself For ______”
What will happen, just like it did with me is you’ll start to see when you’re not in your power and when someone else has those strings on you. You need to really open your heart and feel when you are out of your truth and not following what it is you want or need.
You will KNOW when you start journaling when you’re out of your truth ever day. I suggest you really pay attention to how you FEEL on a daily basis and when you feel tired, uncomfortable or just flat out confused, you will see how you can bring yourself back to your power.
For me it was seeing myself depleted everyday because I was giving my power to everyone and not owning my own happiness and life that really turned my booty around. I wanted to be that person that people came to and got advice and help, I loved doing it, but I never had it because I was pushing it away, I was not listening or loving myself to know I had what it took to be that person. People would push me around and I let it happen.
I once had a boss tell me “Kris, you’re great at what you do, but your too soft…you’re a push over” What did I do? Apologized. Right there I knew something was off, I wasn’t supposed to feel like this. was out of my power so much I didn’t have that back bone to own my life.
If this is something you’re feeling, start a journal or open a new note section on your iphone and write how you’re feeling. Be conscious of your power and where you really want to say “Yes” but always say “No” with your head down.
I believe in you. I believe you are exactly the person you are here to be and personal development is an amazing journey to be on. We will never be great, we’ll always be learning….but we will ALWAYS be FABULOUS!
Ooooo I’m charged up after this post!!!
Today, I am hitting up starbucks, going to look for the new Success From Home Magazine as some of our team is featured in it and then looking for a new bra….exciting I know 
Comment Below! Do you live in your Authentic Power?? Do you feel when you’re out of your power??
To Your Glam Life,
xxoo
Kris
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This totally inspired me today! xo
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kris Reply:
May 29th, 2012 at 11:13 pm
Thank you Kelly!!!!
xxxoo
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You rock girl — I love, love, LOVE this post!
I love to be a guide and when people talk to me about the things I am passionate about (vegetarianism, fitness, health, positive reinforcement kinda stuff), I feel confident and love to share what I know. However, I am also a total pushover and I shrink away when challenged to avoid potential conflict.
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kris Reply:
May 29th, 2012 at 11:13 pm
Ahhhhhh the importance of your comment here is you KNOW where you step back! All you need to do now is next time it happens make that one step into the power and then it just starts growing and happening more often! Trust me lovie, you’re there!!
Keep inspiring!
xxoo
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I love the Queen quote! I agree that power often has negative connotations but I like the idea of harnessing it from within to use it for your own good! When I think power can become negative is when people abuse it or try and lord it over others too much. Using it for your own self-worth is super… well, powerful! xx
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kris Reply:
May 29th, 2012 at 11:12 pm
I agree with this comment 110%! Love your energy girl!
xxoo
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GREAT POST GIRL! Love it! I definitely feel when I’m out of power and out of positive thinking. I love your idea of “I love myself for ____”! I try to start each day thinking of something exciting and positive, even if it’s going to be a tough day! Thanks for the great post.
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kris Reply:
May 29th, 2012 at 11:11 pm
You’re welcome!! I love that you start each day with positiveness and love!! WOO HOO!!
xxoo
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So inspiring, my friend! I sometimes feel out of my power especially when saying no to people, I’m a people pleaser and have a hard time saying no even though I know I should, and I can be a total pushover and just agree with others. That is taking me out of my power and I need to speak up for myself.
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kris Reply:
May 29th, 2012 at 11:11 pm
Yes, I can relate my gorgeousness! I never wanted to hurt feelings, etc. I found just witnessing how I felt when I let people take my power and then I decided I wanted to try feeling in my power
Its night and day! We’re a lot a like my friend 
xxoo
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I’m with Lisa- I always had such a problem saying No to people because I always wanted to please everyone. Since moving to NYC I’ve realized I can’t say yes to everything and I’ve become more independent and confident because of it!
xo
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kris Reply:
May 29th, 2012 at 11:10 pm
WOOO HOOO!!!! See sometimes a big change in your life, like a large move will allow that power to step up and shine! Go girl!!
xxoo
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Thank you. I know you wrote this just for me.
Love
T
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Beautiful post, my lovely friend! I seriously loved this so much! I don’t let anyone rob me of a good day. I was recently just telling a friend this because someone upset her, but I believe that no one has the power to do that! No one can take anything away from me because I live with my own power!
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Wow, I love the fact that you explained how important it is to own your happiness. I tend to let alot of things get in the way of my being happy. This article was very helpful. It’s all about being powerful and fabulous
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