Finding True Happiness….or Do You Have it Already and Push it Away?

Posted on 13. Mar, 2010 by kris in Life Changes, My Daily Life

Happy Friday My Blog Friends!

Wow, this week is over and I am so excited for the weekend! We are meeting up with a friend tonight and then possibly going to see Alice in Wonderland. Saturdays are always busy for us and Sunday we have some meetings planned, so we are looking forward to that!

I watched this very interesting TED talk with my parents last night when I was visiting with them. It is all about Happiness.

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Who doesn’t want Happiness in their life? I can honestly say when I ask someone what their ultimate goal is in life, they all say Happiness. In this video titled “Plug into your hard-wired Happiness”, Srikumar Roa explains that we have true happiness already in us and we do not have get anything, do or be anything to be happy, we are hard wired with happiness and it is in our DNA.

Interesting…..so you may ask - then why am I am not happy? why does my life suck? The reason explained in this video is we have spent our entire life learning to be unhappy. HUH! Wow, I heard that and I almost fell off my seat! It makes so much sense to me!

We have all been buying into mental model of “this is how the world works” “life is supposed to be hard” “you need this type of job to be happy”, etc, But we don’t know as humans that we have these mental models.

Growing up I always loved nice things and I still do, but I am realizing as I get older it isn’t the Louis V’s and the BMW’s that are going to make me happy (they help and feel good to have ) But I don’t need these things to get me to my internal happiness. We need to be happy now within ourselves with the items and family and job we have for us to grow further.

Most of society lives in the “If then” scenario - “If I move to California, Then I will be happy” or “If I was in a relationship, Then I would be Happy”. But people find that when these things actually happen and they pack up shop and move to Cali….they don’t find their happiness.

What can you do to be Happy Everyday?

I am a firm believer in setting goals, and that everything happens for a reason. So set a goal and that might be to start your own business, keep that goal in mind but focus and enjoy the Process, not the Outcome. The outcome isn’t necessarily going to make you happy, but if you love the process (this is why I believe you have to love what you do everyday!) you will always be in Happiness or bliss.

So enjoy your processes! Everything always works the way it should when you are on the right path

I believe our lives are too short to be wasted and everyone should love more!

I know this is a tough topic for most people, so I would love to hear what you all think?? Let me know if you watch the video!

This little guy makes me happy!

To your Happiness this weekend Everyone

XXOO
Kris

Tags: Finding True Happiness, Goals, happiness, How to be happy everyday, loving life, True Happiness

13 Responses to “Finding True Happiness….or Do You Have it Already and Push it Away?”

Heather (Where's the Beach)

13. Mar, 2010

Working on a new netbook and can’t view video but I think we all choose happiness to some extent. It’s so easy to fall into the “woe is me” attitude. But we can also choose to find the positives in life.
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highonhealthy

13. Mar, 2010

This is such a neat topic! I never thought about it but.. it seems true that we have the ability to be happy and the only things keeping us from it is ourselves.
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Averie (LoveVeggiesAndYoga)

13. Mar, 2010

happiness is a state of mind that we choose and are completely in control of..well of course crappy things and circumstances can put a chink in the armour but honestly, it’s mind over matter..positive mental attitude causes good things to happen which causes us to remain positive. Very “The Secret”-ish, laws of attraction and all that, but yeah, I am totally with you, Kris

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Ameena

13. Mar, 2010

Great topic Kris…I totally agree that while the nice things help, we are really the only people that can make ourselves happy. I often jump to the outcome without ever enjoying the process and thus I waste a lot of my life waiting, if that makes any sense. Anyway, I need to learn to enjoy the process! I am working on it!
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kalli@fitandfortysomething

13. Mar, 2010

my little girl makes me happy too!
i think being happy is all about living in the moment and taking charge of that moment.
great post!

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GirlonRaw

13. Mar, 2010

Great post Kris and yes happiness is totally within ourselves I completely believe and if we are feeling unhappy then we have the choice to CHOOSE AGAIN. Well written lovely one.

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Leah

13. Mar, 2010

Ive always been one to push away happiness. You’re totally right too, THINGS dont make any difference in your happiness. I actually have less now than ever before (comes with no longer living at home) but Im happier than ever.
I think we make our own happiness, we just choose not to.
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Miho

14. Mar, 2010

Hm, I really like this post.

I think because people don’t realize all the happiness around them, they think they’re “unhappy”. First of all, being able to see the sunrise the next day is a really big thing to be happy about, because some people in this world don’t have a safe place to live to see tomorrow. So I think the first step to become happy is to REALIZE THE LITTLE HAPPINESS/GIFT AROUND THEM EVERYDAY. After all, isn’t having a body that functions properly even when we overeat something to be happy and thankful about?
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Teri [a foodie stays fit]

15. Mar, 2010

Great post. I’m trying to find joy in the process because I do get caught up in If/Then situations.
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Mooms

15. Mar, 2010

This is so beautiful!

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Naomi(onefitfoodie)

15. Mar, 2010

setting goals, and everything happens for a reason I am SO WITH YOU ON THIS! happiness is so different for everyone and what makes one person happy may make another miserable..its so funny how that works, I truly appreciate the fact that everyone is different and love seeing everyones differences. AWESOME POST!

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Natasha

16. Mar, 2010

I’m agreed that we are in control of our happiness, that we should live in the now, and invest in the process. It’s a beautiful concept. But… it’s not always as simple as that. I have invested in the processes of many things, and appreciate the lessons that these processes have taught me. I am realistic enough to know that simply making a change, or having that ‘thing’ won’t straight away make me happier. Having bordered on depression in the past, certain situations just make it so much harder to stay happy.

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Melissa

18. Mar, 2010

Great post! It is hard to talk about happiness because, like you said, we are TOLD what should make us happy and so if we don’t have 2 BMW’s in the driveway you need to be miserable. We are not told that we can be happy doing anything in life! This has been a struggle for me and I’ve been working on it a lot lately. Really asking myself what makes me happy. It’s funny that such a simple question can take such a long time to answer. Another thing is, like Averie said, you can choose to be happy and so if something crappy happens during my day…I can either let it control me and my emotions or look on the bright side! HUGE learning curve there…for me at least!
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