It’s time to dissolve your controlling ways, stress, fear, worry, anxiety and doubts.
Ryan said to me the other day “You’re not nearly as controlling as you used to be, babe!”! Fiancé of the year award.
Thank God I’m not nearly as controlling as I used to be or I will tell you that our relationship would not have made it to a gorgeous engagement if I still was. Let me fill you in on why I believe your life is better when you’re in flow and letting go of control! Not only will dissolving any control in your relationship help you and your partner grow stronger together, but my need (kind of an addiction) to control everything was what caused my adult acne, my hair loss (because controlling is stressful!), my money issues and my self-esteem challenges.
My controlling ways were caused by one thing – a disconnect from my inner guide.
Hear me out! If you’re a controller like I am you might find this extremely hard to read this or let go of controlling, fearful ways…so don’t just trust me here, trust your inner guidance that has been telling you to ease off the fear and let your life flow as it should! Com’on, do you hear this inner whisper to calm the heck down?! Do you hear that the Universe has your back and that you can live more peacefully, without feeling like a worry wart?
I am a recovering worry wart and I will say, I didn’t hate worrying….
And as CRAZY as this sounds, I liked it. It’s all I knew for MANY years of my life.
Oooooh, I would try to hide my controlling ways with trying to spin it in a way where I just seemed overly loving and helpful ; ) Controlla.
I felt that I couldn’t live without controlling my life and the lives of others because I feared the unknown. Like really feared the “what if’s” or “what if I do something wrong?!”, etc. This control issue was fierce and raged within me, which started to cause a lot external health issues like backaches, acne, hair loss, anger, and I finally couldn’t take the pain my life and body was in any longer and this is what really ignited my curiosity to get the help I needed so I could calm the F down and stop being a crazy woman.
This is when I stopped and accepted my intuition / my inner guidance!
Ok babes! Do you want to drop the control and any stage five clinger ways you might face and just live super free??
Let’s dive in!
The best way you can allow your fear, worry, doubt and control dissolve is to let your intuition to guide you to all the things that you crave! You need to start living your JOY every single day. When you follow all the little things that bring you joy throughout the day, your vibration will increase and you’ll feel happy and receive fabulous guidance! When you’re vibes are up, you are so dialed-in to source and flow.
When you feel this joy in your cells and you start to see how easy life flows, you will trust your true inner connection.
You might think I am absolutely bat sh*t crazy, but I believe that we are all a source of massive creation and we hold the same creative and deep knowing that the divine holds. If you just start to listen to what your inner guidance is telling you there will be no need to control or live in fear! Scary? Yea, at first it is.
How do you know your inner guidance is really telling you the truth and not just fooling you?
I’ll tell you how I know mine is being so true to me…
I feel it in my heart. I also hear a whisper. It’s almost like a niggle as Rebecca Campbell calls it.
This is why I’m telling you to do things daily that bring you joy because joy is the highest vibration and when you’re in joy and experiencing joy that is where you deeply feel your inner guidance and you will automatically dissolve the fears and control.
Ask yourself: What are 10 things that bring me joy?
Add 2 of these joy-rich things, people, activities to your life every single day.
Maybe it’s just sitting in quiet with a good cup of coffee in the morning. This is totally one of my joys.
Just today as I write this to you, my intuition pulled me to grab my acrylics, come brushes and a canvas before coaching clients and paint whatever I felt like painting! I opened the back doors, let the warm breeze come in and put on some music and just let my inner guide lead me to the colors and the strokes. As I was painting I thought of some great ideas for business and some amazing blog topics.
To be honest, at 11:30am on a Thursday I felt a bit guilty to be painting. My ego was telling me to just get to work, read more emails, get on social media and work. But that didn’t feel right. What felt joyful to me was putting the old sweats on and let my soul have fun!
I understand how challenging it can be to get out of a stressful or fearful situation when you’re living it, but as soon as you let your intuition lead the way, even if it sounds crazy, you will get the answers you’ve been looking for!
When Ryan and I started to grow ourselves and let go of control, all I did was focused on what my intuition was telling me and how I could be more of the flowing goddess I am here to be, which meant I was always checking my mindset and consulting with God. Now, if you don’t believe that God is a part of your life, maybe you feel the Universe and energy that supports you and know you can turn to this when you’re confused.
Try journaling (I wrote a whole post on how to start journaling here) when you feel an overbearing amount of fear, anxiety or control taking over and let it out of your mind! The more you stew with fearful stories, your control can take over your body and that’s when the crazy comes out! So let your emotions out and let them expose themselves. I shared how I’m such an introvert and how this has helped me follow my inner guidance a lot more!
You do need a daily spiritual practice if you want to live each day and each moment following your inner guidance so you don’t feel that hard stress and worry. This might be you use “I AM Statements” or you pray, you meditate, you go out for a walk first thing in the morning and hear your guidance, whatever you feel called to do as a practice, do it daily so you sharpen and trust that inner voice of yours.
Keep trying these little steps each day and you will see the need to control fade out and the flow of life guide you in a way that you feel so good being in! Ease, baby!
I want to hear from you! What do you do to connect to your self or Source?